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Lost a lot of friends to the pandemic But, it still beats me how a global pandemic didn't make people who survived it realise that pettiness leads nowhere and that life is too short to not love and care for each other. If people are still bullying, ignoring and intending to trample on people's feelings or cause confusion, they haven't yet learned their lesson from this very tough period. # sherise # girlwithapositiveboldvoice # musicandhealing # harshrealities

Some old doors that you knock on can be a complete waste of time because they lead to NULL. System crashes happen when pograms execute and throw NULL POINTER EXCEPTIONS.  Similarly, when you chase a job that no longer recognises your efforts, a person that no longer sees your worth, a long lost friend, a relative (keep calling them, knocking on their door, and they just behave difficult and don't respond, that doesn't make you desperate.  In fact, saying exactly what's on your mind, makes you authentic. You see the value in that relation, but they don't. So what do you do? Just let them know that you don't intend on playing games, and if it's a lost cause, then you will surely let go and move on. However, if there is a sign of hope somewhere, you can try to pursue it at your own risk. But be preapred to be ignored again. Because difficult people are difficult. It's a norm for them to take the easy way out for themselves and make someone else's life diffi...

 Constantly being rejected is not good for health . Its actually toxic. I don't know about others, but, in the past whenever I have been rejected, I became very depressed and it impacted my work and took a lot out of me to bounce back and regain my energy. When you kill someone's spirit with negativity they have no other way to turn but give in and kill all the good things which includes love, belief and sometimes even themselves. If I had to listen and take to heart all the things people "revealed" about me, (because people's opinions of me are my kryptonite; I take everything they say, seriously) I probably would have been so ashamed of myself and  I wouldn't want to show my face to the world or I wouldn't even want to fall in love again and my self esteem would be extremely low. Thankfully, I trained myself to spot and tackle with negativity, repressive and regressive behaviour. 

 There are some people who come into your life and you wonder what you ever did to deserve the hatred they doled out to you. Its not about being a victim, it's about being on the recieving end and not knowing how to respond, when a stone gets thrown at you. Should you change yourself? Try to change the outcome or try to change the other person or their opinion of you? I have tried all of these things and failed. Change is not always the answer. Silence and pauses cause more damage sometimes, as we dont know what the other person is thinking. Here I am trying to find a solution, while the other person is calculating the nature of the next stone to throw. Again, it's not about being a victim, but about knowing what to do and how to react to stone-throws. We are truly how we think of others. If I think of the other person as the enemy, then I actually have made myself into an enemy and not them. If I think that someone is not attracted to me, I may not be attractive. On the other ...

Time is the best teacher. Time heals all wounds and opens all eyes 👁️ without any interference.  If you think the same things you always thought, you will get the same things you always got. When you kill someone's spirit with negativity and toxic behaviour, they have no other way to turn but give in and die to all the good things which includes love, belief and sometimes even themselves. There is a way out - train yourself to spot and tackle with negativity, repressive and regressive behaviour. Try to change toxic people for the better, but don't get caught up in their negativity and don't let your positivity get plucked out of you!😺🦋🎈

I notice that I tend to repress happiness when it gets too much for me to handle, and then I withdraw. A part of being happy is knowing how to handle sometimes too much happiness, too much attraction, too much attention as well as too much sadness, and trusting that it will stabilize and turn to equilibrium without having to repress, put myself or others down or punish myself/ others for mistakes or for responding well to me. I'm learning to build from every moment and from everything I recieve; so what if it didn't happen the first time the way I wanted it to - I build from that: every breath, every moment matters...I have only the best intentions; and I would do my best! Everyone can see my journey and progression along with the mistakes I made; because being real and genuine matters at the end of the day. I was never a one hit, overnight wonder. Things take time and energy and I love the process more than the result. ❤️✨